Have you ever heard the saying, perception is 9/10ths of reality? You don’t know how true this is. For years I have worked in the public arena filled with other people’s egos. What they perceive of you is indeed where you will go. This is so powerful, that it almost doesn’t matter how good you really are at something, people’s perception of you is what really counts.
The purpose of this article is to show you ways you can improve your public image. This is the image you “put out there”. It doesn’t matter if it is a private group of friends, a social network, work, or in the public eye, the principles I have outlined will carry to each and every aspect in your life. Remember, however, it really doesn’t matter what people think about you that matters. It is what YOU think about yourself that will come through in the eyes of others.
Here are some things you can do to improve your image.
1- Understand what others see in you
Firstly, in order to understand how to improve your image, you need to understand what is wrong with your image. Obviously, you want to change your image for a reason. Maybe something bad has happened, or you aren’t popular. Whatever the reason, you need to understand what people see in you. Ask those around you for an honest opinion. Get feedback. Most imporantantly, please, don’t take what they say personally, but as positive criticism that you will use to better yourself. But remember, feedback is only valuable if it is honest, and from a trustworthy source.
Once you have done this, the next step is to understand how you want to be perceived. Write down everything you can think about yourself, and have a good look at how you interact with others. Become aware of yourself during conversations, and always ask if what you are saying is something that you would like to hear, and matches your new image of yourself. You need to understand where you are now, and where you want to be in the future before you can make any real changes.
Once you start to get a better understanding of how you are portrayed to others, and their opinion of you, you will start to see things that you put out there that can be improved. Remember though, in whatever you do, be true to yourself, and be real with others. It will not do you any good to put out someone you are not.
2- Dress for success
How do you feel in that new suit, or dress? Does it make you feel like the person you are trying to portray? Do you feel successful in it? Does it give you more confidence? How you dress is the first thing people see when they meet you. Do you want them to see someone who is vibrant with life, confident, alluring, or someone frumpy, unhappy, or miserable?
Your body shape doesn’t matter. If you are carrying a bit of weight, make sure you dress with class. If you dress with class, you will be class, and it shows.
3- Be confident in everything you do
Confidence is something that you can’t fake. You are either confident or you are not. Those that aren’t confident will be on edge, not sure what to say, avoid eye contact, and will generally just feel “icky” to be around.
Strut your stuff. Engage your audience by being a master of your own domain. Become an expert at everything you do. Find things to do to build your confidence. Take a course, or a martial arts class. Anything you do that will build your confidence will show to others. People won’t fear you if they think you are confident.
4- Be consistent
No one likes to be around someone who changes their mind all the time. Understand who you are, and stick to it. Otherwise people will just think you are a flake, and will not think you are real. If you are consistent, then, over time, more and more people will spread the word about you, and when someone new hears it from multiple sources, what they here will be consistent, and show stability.
5- Be truthful and ethical, and follow through on your word
No one likes a liar, or someone who says they will do something, but doesn’t follow through. Your integrity is the most important asset you have. Protect it at ALL costs. If you can’t be truthful to others, then how can you be truthful to yourself? Remember, in any relationship you are trying to build, trust is the very foundation. This relationship is GOLD to you. Don’t do anything that may tarnish this. People will only deal with people they trust. This goes for ANYTHING you do in life.
6- Live for the moment, not the past or the future
Live every day to its fullest, as if it were your last. Don’t dwell on things that happened in the past, or may happen in the future. You are here, right now. As a matter of fact, the past or future doesn’t exist!! The only thing that exists is RIGHT NOW. Nothing is more attractive to others than someone who lives life to the fullest, and finds joy in everything they have or do at the moment they do it.
7- Always offer help or assistance
Think of others before you think of yourself. What do they need? How can they be successful? If you always offer them help or assistance, they will return the favour when you need it most, or when you least expect it. This is particularly important if you are helping them make more sales, or build a team. In order to become a leader, you have to prove that you are a leader. But remember, a true leader is not someone who tells others what to do, but rather helps and empowers them to do it for themselves. You can give a person a fish, which will feed him for a day, or you can teach them to fish so he can eat for life.
8- Be firm in your beliefs, but easy going
Your beliefs are what drive you. These beliefs are the very foundation of who you are. You are what you believe you are. Have a good look at what you believe about yourself and others, and be firm in those beliefs. If there is something you don’t like about yourself, then there is something that you believe that is keeping you there. Is the belief valid? Remember, stand up for what you believe in, but make sure it is just not something that you have been taught.
Be careful though, if you are too strong in your beliefs, then you will be closed minded in the eyes of others. Be firm in your beliefs, but keep an open mind. There are always other perspectives that you should take into consideration, so always revisit your beliefs from time to time, and see if they are still valid.
9- Do things out of kindness or love, and be compassionate
Everyone likes to know they are loved. Every once and a while, show people that you are thinking about them, or that you care about them. Being loving to other people can be done in a thousand different ways. Show others that you care about them, and appreciate them. Remind them often. Get creative!
10- Spread the word, and sell yourself
If you are in an empty house without anyone around, how will your image get enhanced. Spread the word! Invite people out to lunch, and be social! Remember, this is about improving your public perception, not about selling a product and service. It is important to get out there and make money, but no one wants to have it shoved in their face up front. Get out there, make friends, find out what makes them tick and what they are interested in. Then, when you think you can help them with your product or service, they will be in a position to hear about it.
If you do the things I have outlined above, your image MUST improve. If you are already doing these things, then keep with it and believe that what you are doing is fine. The universe has a way of always bringing out the truth.
The most important thing you can do to change your public perception is to change what you feel about yourself. What you see when you look in the mirror is what is most important. Get rid of anything that associates yourself with a false sense of identity, such as the past or future. Are you fun to be around? If not, make it so. Remember, no one wants to be around someone that is miserable. Live right now, and enjoy life. and be the best you can be. This is the law of attraction.
The universe has a magical way of taking care of those that live by these principles. If you truly believe in yourself, respect yourself, you will automatically believe and respect in others, which will be returned back to you tenfold. Before you know it, suddenly everything you want out of life you will have it. Believe in yourself, and that you already have it, and it shall be. Work with others, and not against them, and you will have teamwork. Work with the universe, and you will have the world at your feet.
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